What to Do When You Are Stuck in a Rut in Life?


Do you ever feel like you’re in a rut in life?

It’s time to get ‘unstuck’.

We all go through temporary periods where we feel as though we are stuck in what we call a ‘rut’. In fact, it’s not at all uncommon to feel like you are just going through the motions in life - treading water, or jogging on the spit.

You’re doing the same things every day, time is flying by quickly, but it doesn't seem like you are going anywhere. Things that used to get you excited start to lose their splendour and interest. Instead of progressing forward, you are remaining in a state of stagnation. 

This feeling can be really frustrating, however, there are a lot of things you can do that will not only figure out why you are feeling stuck but also how you can get yourself motivated and feeling active once again.

Recognise you’re in a rut

Being stuck is something that you might not even notice you are initially. These feelings can gradually grow more and more as time goes by. Eventually it feels less like you are building towards something, and instead just killing time. DBT can really help those with these sort of issues.

Recognise that you might want change, but be afraid of the temporary discomfort that comes with it. 

It’s important to know that not all ruts are the same, it can be beneficial to get to the route of an issue, this is often possible with the help of a psychiatrist. Anything can cause unhappiness, be it your romantic relationship, your friendships, your professional life, hobbies or home situation.

Often it can be because you are not adequately pursuing your passion, or things that you are interested in. 

Sometimes we might think that its not beneficial to think this way, or that ‘our life is perfect’, ‘I don’t have a right to feel bad’. While this kind of perspective could be helpful at times, overall it's important we give ourselves the space and freedom to feel our emotions to their full extent. If you aren’t satisfied, then it is time to take stock of your emotions, and goals and make some meaningful changes in your life.

Self Care 

Have you been sleeping enough? Have you been eating right? Doing exercise? Have meaningful social connections? Feel safe? Remember to look after your basic needs. If you habitually don't take care of these things, then maybe it is about time you make some changes in these areas..

Change your routine.

Get a week planner, be it on paper, your computer, smartphone, whiteboard, calendar - whatever it is and make a new plan for your week - include everything you want to get done in there. Now stick to it!

You’ll be amazed at all of the fulfilling and productive things you can get done when you take the time for it. See how this has an effect on your mindset. Keep track of what you get done and motivate yourself with a treat at the end of the week if you get it all done.

Before you know it, you’ll be back in action.